Is Your Relationship Hurting Your Career?
Christina Macres | MonsterCollege
No one ever said managing a career was easy. Throw a relationship into the mix and you’ve got career suicide, right? Wrong. While we’d all love to forgo a day of work in exchange for a fun-filled day with our significant other, having a strong relationship doesn’t mean your occupational goals have to suffer. It’s quite the opposite!
Extensive research on the subject of relationships and careers shows that people in successful relationships not only make more money, they’re healthier, live longer, and get more promotions than singles do. So how can you juggle your relationship and your career?
We’ve got the five tips that’ll keep your work and love life harmonious — and YOU sane!
1) Prioritize. It’s a fact: Sometimes life forces us to put more weight on one thing than another. Often, this priority shift means forgoing one goal in exchange for another; for example, weakening your professional aspirations in return for relationship growth. But you shouldn’t have to sacrifice one aspect of your life for another. After all, what’s the fun of a promotion if you don’t have someone to share it with?
The good news is prioritizing doesn’t mean sacrifice. It means adjustment. And by building a strong foundation for both your romantic and work life, you can prevent disruption when priorities shift.
Step one: Make sure that both your significant other and your coworkers know that they’re a significant part of your life. When both understand that they are mutually valuable, staying late at the office doesn’t mean that you’d rather be at work, nor does taking a personal day mean you don’t care about your job.
Communicate that both are of high priority and sometimes, as need be, one might take precedence.
2) Compartmentalize. Having a successful career and a loving relationship is the best of both worlds. The best way to keep those two separate worlds happy? Just that — keep them separate! That means when you’re at work, commit fully to your job, the task at hand, and the needs of your coworkers or managers. Don’t let your love life be a distraction. There’s plenty of time to daydream outside the office. Instead, spend your workday being productive and you’ll have more time quality time to spend with your beloved later.
Likewise, when spending quality time with your significant other, don’t let work distract your attention. Put away your BlackBerry, stop talking about your next big proposal, and halt all conversations about your gossipy coworker. Instead, discuss topics you as a couple both enjoy. On the plus side, you’ll find that occasionally disconnecting (fully) from work will make you more productive when you return to the office.